Simply mention the word “funeral” and it can evoke a wide variety of reactions. For many, the emotion of sadness is the likely response as the memory of losing someone they loved is the first thing that comes to mind. For others, the response is one of fear because they have never attended a funeral and know that one day they will be forced to confront this reality.
Many persons are likely to respond with a combination of feelings ranging from sadness to peace of mind. While the sadness is for aforementioned reason, the source of their peace of mind or comfort could be from the fond memories of the well planned, personalized funeral that honored their loved one’s life and legacy.
Because of their religious upbringing or perhaps other past experiences with death, many persons understand the reasons for and emotional support that is gained through the experience of having a funeral. Still, there are also those who question the value of engaging in the funeral ritual.
Noted author, educator and psychologist Dr. Alan Wolfelt, provides the following insight on the value of the funeral ritual:
“Rituals are symbolic activities that help us, together with our families and friends, express our deepest thoughts and feelings about life's most important events. Baptism celebrates the birth of a child and that child's acceptance into the church family. Birthday parties honor the passing of another year in the life of someone we love. Weddings publicly affirm the private love shared by two people. The funeral ritual, too, is a public, traditional and symbolic means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts and feelings about the death of someone loved. Rich in history and rife with symbolism, the funeral ceremony helps us acknowledge the reality of the death, gives testimony to the life of the deceased, encourages the expression of grief in a way consistent with the culture's values, provides support to mourners, allows for the embracing of faith and beliefs about life and death, and offers continuity and hope for the living.”
For more information on Dr. Wolfelt’s work, go to: www.centerforloss.com
Whether you or your loved one are members of a formal religion, are spiritual but not religious, or have other beliefs, a funeral is a unique way of honoring a person’s life and can be a great source of comfort to those survivors who are grieving the loss.
Taylor Funeral Service is here to help you understand the value of the funeral. We will inform, educate and help you understand all of your options so that you can plan a funeral that is fitting to the unique life that was lived.
The cost of a funeral is determined primarily by the type of services and merchandise selected. We will provide our general price list prior to your making any selections. This price list will detail the various types of services available and the cost for each. In addition, if your arrangements involve the selection of a casket or outer burial container, you will be shown the price list for each prior to making a selection.
Prior to completing the funeral arrangements, we will prepare an itemized list of all of your selections for services, merchandise and any charges from outside parties that are being paid through the funeral home. Be sure to ask any questions you may have—we are here to help ensure total comfort in your selections.
Assistance with funeral related expenses may be available for persons who are on a government assistance program or who can demonstrate a legitimate need. These programs vary greatly from one state to another and usually originate with the state, county or local government. Each program has unique qualifications for assistance and benefits that are provided, if any. Contact us for more information.
We are keenly aware of the fact that funeral expenses often are unexpected, and we strive to help you and your family understand your options. We provide compassionate guidance as you make selections that are fitting for their loved one and within your budget. Contact us for more information.
The crematory that is performing the cremation process will usually have a minimum requirement that specifies the deceased be placed in a rigid container. The actual container you select is based on your personal preference and the type of arrangements you select. We will advise you on crematory requirements.
The final cost of your arrangements will be determined by the service and merchandise selections you make. You can certainly select an immediate cremation with no funeral services just as you can select an immediate casket burial with no funeral services, both of which would cost less than if other funeral services and merchandise were selected. We will provide and explain our general price list. You can then make an informed decision as to which arrangements are most appropriate for your needs and fit within your budget.
Taking cremated remains home to store or place on display is your personal decision. If you decide to exercise this option, we recommend you have a long-term plan for permanent placement of the cremated remains after your death. A trusted advisor or family member should have clear instructions as to what should happen to the urn or urns after your death.
Yes, you are within your rights to personally transport cremated remains. We can provide you with a copy of the burial transit permit (or similar document) which should accompany the cremated remains for identification purposes.
Generally, cremated remains may be hand carried on most airlines as long as the proper documentation is brought and the urn/container is able to be x-rayed at security. The airline should always be contacted first to determine the paperwork they require for transporting cremated remains. In addition, if you are travelling internationally, the country you are entering may require additional paperwork. We can assist you in contacting the country's consular offices to determine their specific requirements.
There are several considerations prior to scattering cremated remains. Be careful to first remember that scattering is a final, irrevocable act. Be certain that you want to do this, realizing that the cremated remains cannot be retrieved.
If you want to scatter on public land, you must first consult with the town or other governing body to determine if this act is permissible. On private land, you must obtain permission from the landowner. If you do obtain permission, be selective when choosing the location for the scattering, using care to scatter in a private area. It is important to not infringe upon the rights of others who may not be comfortable with human remains being scattered in a common area.
Some persons express the desire to scatter cremated remains on the grave of another relative at a cemetery. This practice is generally not allowed. Some cemeteries do have a designated area where a scattering may take place for a fee under their supervision. Consult with officials at the cemetery to determine their allowable practices.
Should you desire to scatter cremated remains in an ocean, the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) requires this act must be performed a minimum of three nautical miles offshore. Requirements for scattering cremated remains in lakes and inland waterways can be found by contacting regional offices of the EPA or state authorities. We can assist you in obtaining the required information.
Cremated remains may be placed in a cemetery in a grave or in a columbarium niche. You can also purchase a keepsake in the form of a miniature urn, jewelry or other suitable object, where a portion of the cremated remains may be placed and shared with loved ones. Some people choose to purchase several keepsakes to share the cremated remains with multiple family members and friends.
Generally, the cost of a grave space is determined by the location in the cemetery and available inventory. Spaces in a more desired location, such as near a water feature or on a hilltop, will cost more than spaces in other locations.
The cemetery you select will have policies regarding the type of grave marker that may be placed on the grave. Some allow only markers that are flush with the ground and others will allow an upright monument. There may also be regulations regarding the material from which the marker is constructed. We can provide specific information related to marker and monument policies.
The cost of the casket is determined by the material from which it is constructed and the grade of the interior fabric. We can provide a comparative casket price list which details the entire selection of caskets available from Taylor Funeral Service.
In a “purist” natural or green burial, the body is buried, without embalming, in a natural setting. Any shroud or casket that is used must be biodegradable, nontoxic, and of sustainable material. Traditional standing headstones are not permitted. Instead, flat rocks, plants or trees may serve as grave markers. Some cemeteries use GPS to mark the locations of gravesites. A “natural or green burial” may also simply mean burial without embalming, in a biodegradable casket without a vault, when permitted by a cemetery.
A green cemetery is a burial site that does not permit vaults, non-biodegradable caskets or embalming chemicals. It uses no herbicides, pesticides or irrigation for maintenance of the cemetery grounds. Any material used at a green cemetery must meet the goal of replenishing the earth. There are cemeteries in the U.S. that accommodate both conventional burial practices and burial without the use of a vault or outer burial container on their premises. Many natural or green cemeteries feature sustainable landscape design and natural memorialization.
The first green burial in the modern sense took place in England in 1993; in 2012, there were more than 250 green burial sites in operation in the UK. In the United States, one of the first natural burial grounds was opened in 1996 in western South Carolina. Some green cemeteries are established as conservation areas in accordance with specific state laws.
If there is not a green cemetery in your area, you may still be able to have a green funeral and possibly a burial in a traditional cemetery that incorporates many green elements. The use of outer burial containers or vaults is not required by federal or state law, but is required by many cemeteries. Your local cemetery may have begun to offer green burial sections that do not require vaults or may offer solutions that will allow the casket to be in direct contact with the earth, while still fulfilling cemetery requirements for an outer burial container. In many rural areas, vaults or grave liners are usually not required.
Taylor Funeral Service can provide assistance to you in determining green or natural burial options in your community.